It is not possible to pick and choose the parameters you would like to transfer - that would be nice though.
Having said that it is not impossible to do but only for transfering (or not transfering) parameters between different object in the objects settings dialogue box.
You cannot use this to transfer parameters on plan between objects.
You will have to edit and save your library parts.
Open the door (or any other part) and in the parameter list select the parameter you do not want to be altered and press the "U" button (I forget its proper name).
Save your object.
Now select the object you want the parameters of and open the object settings dialogue.
Find the object you want to stransfer to and CTRL-ALT click (inject) - don't just select it.
All parameters that are similar will transfer except those that you set not to.
I stress again this does not work in anything except the object settings dialogue and therefore does not work for different instances of the same object.
So not really the solution you are looking for but one worth knowing.
Barry.
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