Tom
Of course View > Refresh > Rebuild Sections/Elevations > Rebuild All S/E's from Model is the correct command.
It really should update all your S/E's no matter which ones you have selected or open. The drawings in the layouts should only update manual-update S/E's when they have been rebuilt in the modeling environment. There is no way to update them in the layouting environment AFAIK.
If this process is not working for you, you may want to use the lesser-known 'Rebuild & Regenerate All Model S/E's from Model' command.
Or if you want to include Drawing S/E's, you may want to use the 'Rebuild & Regenerate All S/E's from Model' command, but that's a little dangerous IMHO because you don't always want your Drawing S/E's updated. Either way you will have to edit your Work Environment profile to use these commands, because it is not included by default.
It may be worth explaining how Rebuild works, and why Rebuild & Regenerate works better:
What you see on the display (the lines, fills, textures) is stored in a database. When you modify something on the screen (edit an element or zoom in, etc.) you actually modify this database. A rebuild makes these modifications appear on screen. Of course, Editing, zoom, etc. automatically triggers a rebuild, so usually you do not have to initiate it manually. If you hit rebuild, you make sure that the display is coherent with the screen database. It usually clears the type of errors when you move something and it does not show, or there are ghost lines that should not be there, etc.
Rebuild and Regenerate throws the screen database away, and builds a new one. If you hit rebuild and regenerate, you avoid the type of bugs that fail to refresh the screen database. It usually clears the type of errors when a change in the settings or elements' parameters does not show.
I think it comes at a cost of taking a little longer is all, but it probably isn't significant. Let us know if it solves your issue.
Cheers,
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